Can there be something more brutal than the gang-rape in Delhi? Yes there is. You and me talking as if we are in no way connected to such incidents and finding only those men and exposing women guilty. Most of you reading this would be blaming those evil minded men. And there will be those funny conservative minds that identifies women wearing exposing clothes as the ones responsible for such incidents. I would say, you and me are responsible. Definitely not completely accountable, But we surely have our hands on this.
Any disparity in this society, according to me, holds each and everyone of us responsible for it. Unless we are completely idealistic, we won't understand this, rather refuse to understand this. May it be poverty and illiteracy to name a few disparities or Theft and Rape to name a few social crimes. Each one of us have our hand on it. To be more precise we contribute to these disparities/crimes in many ways namely, by being a part of it, being negligent, being weak, being 'provocative' and also by being the victim. Many of us will understand and acknowledge the first three ways whereas we won't be able to swallow the last two. The truth is always bitter.
I felt like writing this because of the recent news on violence against women. Why do you think brutal crimes like rape occur? Undoubtedly, the only answer to this question is the perception of womanhood by men in this world. It is a kind of mentality that men of this world have developed over time. The mentality of men from time immemorial. Each one of us are responsible for nurturing and grooming men that way. All along the evolution of this human race, we have let this happen. We have never tried to curb this. But now i think we have got the power to change this.
The most dis-heartening thing is the usual blame game being played all over the country. There is no constructive debate on the solution to this problem. While few people go to the streets demanding hanging of those animals, there are few others liking and commenting on status messages in FB. While some take a candle march in an attempt to pay homage to the victim, there are few who blame the victim herself for the incident. The worst of all is the media that wants its TRP to pump up by focusing on foolish comments by well known people of this society. Let us not be a part of this senseless mob. Let us discuss something constructive-The Solution.
Is hanging the criminals going to be the only solution? There will always be people who commit the crime and get hanged. Will asking all women to be at home before it is dark be a better solution? Never, for over 50% of such crimes happen at home. Will castrating all such men be the solution. But how are we going to identify them in this world without them committing the crime. Are we going to wait till they commit the crime? Will empowering women with financial and social strength be the complete solution? But from where will they get the physical strength to fight those animals. Having said all this there will never be a complete solution to such issues other than a total change in our perception of womanhood. Here 'Our' means not just men but also women. How are we going to make this happen?
Here comes to picture the Objectification of women. This concept of objectification of women is a brainchild of 'man'. The system we live in was framed by man (here man means only man not human). Ever since the arrival on this planet men have continued their dominance over women. We need to accept the fact that, it was this mentality, that has resulted in the world we live in today.I've a few key thing in mind that will change this society by changing each one of us and our perspective.
1. Nowadays i see girls and boys shouting "Son of a B****" or "B*****D" with anger at guys. I'm not sure if they know what they mean. As a means of hurting the guy they actually call a woman "B****" (Most of the times they don't even know who she is). I don mind a guy or girl calling a real "B****" that way. Where does your responsibility of saving the dignity of womanhood stay. When we educated people are so barbaric how can you expect the 30% illiterates and the other Barbarians to respect a woman. The intention behind pointing this is, every other dirty word that exists in the world refers to a woman in the worst possible sense. This attitude is again a reflection of male chauvinism. This needs to change if our interpretation of womanhood needs to be revived.
2. As men, we should treat woman in the society same as we expect the society to treat our women. Right from how we treat our neighbor, classmate and any stranger on the streets, everything has to change if we intend to change this society.
3. A woman is not just one person. She represents the entire womanhood. She is not just responsible for what people think about her and her family. She is responsible for how she portrays a woman. Girls should remember wearing a cloth you desire is not the only means to establish you are equal to men. In-fact it is not even a means to do that. Exposing cloths are the brainchild of man. Man from the beginning wanted to use woman to satisfy his needs. Wearing such cloths indirectly means you are inclined to the current perception of womanhood. Have anyone thought why there are no low neck T-shirts or the skinny leggings for men. Man always wanted woman to wear such cloths and impress him. If you still wish to be objects of this society please do wear such cloths. Some may ask what about the children and old women who are abused, do they wear such cloths? My reply to them is, This is not about when a woman gets raped or abused. It is about what kind of a society we nurture and develop. It is very much about how we portray womanhood. Real Women don't expose!
4. 'As you sow, so you reap'. Having created a society by feeding it continuously with malicious thoughts and desires and expecting nothing to happen is another viral problem of this society. For instance, After watching a movie 10/10 people talk about how sexy the heroine was and how brave the hero was. It is this very basic thought of handling women as objects of desire the soul reason for such heartbreaking incidents. Today's media holds a great deal of responsibility in sustaining this infection in our society. It is also those women who wear exposing clothes on the screen that continuously insist this world that women are nothing more than an object of man's desire. It is those item numbers in movies that emphasizes the same. The sensor Boards now have a greater role in deciding who can see what.
5. Of course we need the strictest of laws to curb anything that happens beyond this.
If only you, I, he and she think that we are responsible for the death of the girl will this atrocity stop. We should be the change we wish to see in this world.
Any disparity in this society, according to me, holds each and everyone of us responsible for it. Unless we are completely idealistic, we won't understand this, rather refuse to understand this. May it be poverty and illiteracy to name a few disparities or Theft and Rape to name a few social crimes. Each one of us have our hand on it. To be more precise we contribute to these disparities/crimes in many ways namely, by being a part of it, being negligent, being weak, being 'provocative' and also by being the victim. Many of us will understand and acknowledge the first three ways whereas we won't be able to swallow the last two. The truth is always bitter.
I felt like writing this because of the recent news on violence against women. Why do you think brutal crimes like rape occur? Undoubtedly, the only answer to this question is the perception of womanhood by men in this world. It is a kind of mentality that men of this world have developed over time. The mentality of men from time immemorial. Each one of us are responsible for nurturing and grooming men that way. All along the evolution of this human race, we have let this happen. We have never tried to curb this. But now i think we have got the power to change this.
The most dis-heartening thing is the usual blame game being played all over the country. There is no constructive debate on the solution to this problem. While few people go to the streets demanding hanging of those animals, there are few others liking and commenting on status messages in FB. While some take a candle march in an attempt to pay homage to the victim, there are few who blame the victim herself for the incident. The worst of all is the media that wants its TRP to pump up by focusing on foolish comments by well known people of this society. Let us not be a part of this senseless mob. Let us discuss something constructive-The Solution.
Is hanging the criminals going to be the only solution? There will always be people who commit the crime and get hanged. Will asking all women to be at home before it is dark be a better solution? Never, for over 50% of such crimes happen at home. Will castrating all such men be the solution. But how are we going to identify them in this world without them committing the crime. Are we going to wait till they commit the crime? Will empowering women with financial and social strength be the complete solution? But from where will they get the physical strength to fight those animals. Having said all this there will never be a complete solution to such issues other than a total change in our perception of womanhood. Here 'Our' means not just men but also women. How are we going to make this happen?
Here comes to picture the Objectification of women. This concept of objectification of women is a brainchild of 'man'. The system we live in was framed by man (here man means only man not human). Ever since the arrival on this planet men have continued their dominance over women. We need to accept the fact that, it was this mentality, that has resulted in the world we live in today.I've a few key thing in mind that will change this society by changing each one of us and our perspective.
1. Nowadays i see girls and boys shouting "Son of a B****" or "B*****D" with anger at guys. I'm not sure if they know what they mean. As a means of hurting the guy they actually call a woman "B****" (Most of the times they don't even know who she is). I don mind a guy or girl calling a real "B****" that way. Where does your responsibility of saving the dignity of womanhood stay. When we educated people are so barbaric how can you expect the 30% illiterates and the other Barbarians to respect a woman. The intention behind pointing this is, every other dirty word that exists in the world refers to a woman in the worst possible sense. This attitude is again a reflection of male chauvinism. This needs to change if our interpretation of womanhood needs to be revived.
2. As men, we should treat woman in the society same as we expect the society to treat our women. Right from how we treat our neighbor, classmate and any stranger on the streets, everything has to change if we intend to change this society.
3. A woman is not just one person. She represents the entire womanhood. She is not just responsible for what people think about her and her family. She is responsible for how she portrays a woman. Girls should remember wearing a cloth you desire is not the only means to establish you are equal to men. In-fact it is not even a means to do that. Exposing cloths are the brainchild of man. Man from the beginning wanted to use woman to satisfy his needs. Wearing such cloths indirectly means you are inclined to the current perception of womanhood. Have anyone thought why there are no low neck T-shirts or the skinny leggings for men. Man always wanted woman to wear such cloths and impress him. If you still wish to be objects of this society please do wear such cloths. Some may ask what about the children and old women who are abused, do they wear such cloths? My reply to them is, This is not about when a woman gets raped or abused. It is about what kind of a society we nurture and develop. It is very much about how we portray womanhood. Real Women don't expose!
4. 'As you sow, so you reap'. Having created a society by feeding it continuously with malicious thoughts and desires and expecting nothing to happen is another viral problem of this society. For instance, After watching a movie 10/10 people talk about how sexy the heroine was and how brave the hero was. It is this very basic thought of handling women as objects of desire the soul reason for such heartbreaking incidents. Today's media holds a great deal of responsibility in sustaining this infection in our society. It is also those women who wear exposing clothes on the screen that continuously insist this world that women are nothing more than an object of man's desire. It is those item numbers in movies that emphasizes the same. The sensor Boards now have a greater role in deciding who can see what.
5. Of course we need the strictest of laws to curb anything that happens beyond this.
If only you, I, he and she think that we are responsible for the death of the girl will this atrocity stop. We should be the change we wish to see in this world.
